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So this isn't really a rant...but I mentioned it before in my post a few months ago that I have been feeling insecure about my wedding dress choice because my dad's family and my fiance's family didn't like my choice (too simple). It made me feel terrible because I really like(d?) my dress and thought I looked good in it. I'm a big girl and it's hard to look good in anything, but I felt positively glowing when I bought the dress.

So I tried it on last week. It doesn't fit. Or at least, I can zip it up, but I can't breathe. I don't get it. I weigh the same as the day I bought it...I swear!!! But it is so tight I feel like I can barely breathe. *Sigh* Can this get worse? No one likes my dress and I am going to look like a sausage squeezed into it. I have just been obsessing about this. I immediately started dieting again and I'm trying to reassure myself since I still have 10 weeks to go, but I am just freaking out. I feel terrible about my choice. How can I regain that glowing, ecstatic feeling? Maybe lose ten pounds? Oh it's going to be tough over the holidays!

THEN!!!! My fiance's family sent a probably well-meaning email about how they don't think Macy's is a good place for us to have registered (we also picked Bed, Bath, and Beyond), but we MAY register at Target if we would like. They let us know they won't shop at Macy's because it's too "upscale" even though literally 90% of everything we registered for at both stores is $25-30 or less. Are they allowed to dictate where we register? We got upset and wrote back an email that made them upset. It just seemed really rude of them. So everyone was unhappy. Great.

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buddykat
Oct. 7th, 2008 09:01 am (UTC)
Get a body wrap to lose a few inches. I've had two, and both times lost over 20 inches throughout my body.

Telling you where to register is just rude. I don't blame you guys for getting upset; I probably would have sent a similar email and also told them where to go and how to get there.
loving_martinis
Oct. 7th, 2008 06:43 pm (UTC)
I would get some Spanx to help fit in the dress better.

And your future in-laws' email was rude. It's not their place to try to dictate where you register. And Target's return policy is sh*tty anway so it's probably better you don't register there. I probably would have emailed them back with "Although we understand your feelings about Macy's, we're going to keep our registry there. We also have a registry at Bed, Bath, & Beyond and they always have coupons that never truly expire. :)"

If they push, state "This is not up for debate. Please stop trying to tell us where to register. That is the bride & groom's call, no one else's. Thank you."
poekitty
Oct. 20th, 2008 05:53 pm (UTC)
did you originally try the dress on with one of those bridal store corset bras? i'm just wondering because my dress fit better and looked better with their 50 dollar bra on! good luck!
bluetinker
Oct. 13th, 2009 03:29 am (UTC)
Ah. Big hug about you're dress. ...but here's a possible solution if a family member sows. Take the zipper off, add a panel or two along where the zipper goes so the dress fits better. (No use being stressedout about dieting too!) The add some beading or lace along the new panel.

It could add some interest to the dress, but assuming the zipper is at the back or side, you won't even see it. The dress can keep the character that made you fall for it in the first place.

It's an idea anyway...
sleep_princess
Apr. 4th, 2013 09:11 am (UTC)
I'm guessing you've already finished up your wedding process, but here's my thought on the different sizing of the dress. If you tried a dress on in an outlet store, more people have worn the dress over time and it's more stretched out. I had a similar issue of a smaller dress arriving when ordered but they said I should just try to wear the dress around to basically stretch it back out (not sure where I could wear it and it laces up with string which poses a little difficulty). Yeah, but that is a common discrepancy that appears in wedding dress sizes. Hope your wedding has since gone well if you already had the event.

In terms of them dictating a registry, my fiance's mother also attempted to dictate that we should not have amazon because she's convinced they would lose the order (I've never had an order lost from them personally but whatever). She threw a bit of a fit about this and I said, we're also registered at Kohl's--granted about 5-10 items are currently on each registry and I actually want financial gifts for a lot of the remaining items. I too thought it was silly that I was happy with my registry and I had to deal with yet another freak out from his family related to our wedding. So, basically I think I won this round because I'm keeping the amazon registry, but gave her a partial other option. She may not feel comfortable with cash because she tends to like to pretend she spent more than she actually spent too, as I've witnessed during holiday gifting. If it gets to the point, she can deal with a registry that my fiance and I are both comfortable with though, ugh or stop complaining at least for a little while.
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