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So I'm going to be a fat bride. I've been trying to lose weight (and I lost 40 pounds last year) but have not been successful more recently. But I'm really starting to get tired of my FMIL asking me every time she sees me, "Have you lost any more weight yet?" and "Are you sure you should eat that?" for every meal we share with them. What else I am I going to eat if we are eating with them? It's silly, but not at the same time. My FH's family are all very petite people..and well...I'm not. Then I picked out my dress at David's Bridal: a wonderful, totally fun experience until some of his family members looked at the pictures of the already purchased dress and started saying, "Is that the best she could do?". It's stupid, but it was crushing. I loved the dress...it's very, very simple though (small wedding), and now I feel insecure about it.

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lassie_faire
Aug. 14th, 2008 02:46 am (UTC)
I actually had that kind of problem with my (not yet purchased) dress. I love love love it, and then I came home and was really excited to show my dad the pictures and he goes "I don't like that" and "Are you SURE you REALLY want a train?" then goes on to talk about how overwhelming they are on a short person. I was really really crushed too, because I was so excited about the dress. But I really do love it, and my mother basically told me "Do you love the dress? You're the one wearing it." And it's true. Don't doubt your choice because some OTHER people don't like it.

As for being "fat", my little sister is considered "fat" but I think she's one of the most beautiful people I know. And besides, your FH loves you for you--not for your weight (I hope he tells your FMIL to shut up about that! That's so rude!).
compulsivelyme
Aug. 14th, 2008 02:50 am (UTC)
Hi sweetie.

I weighed 208 pounds the day of my wedding.

I don't know how big you are, but guess what-- your guy loves you, and you shouldn't let anything stand in the way of the best day of your life.

Smile, have fun, and feel pretty. Because believe me, you will be.
herladyship
Aug. 14th, 2008 03:42 am (UTC)
Tell your FMIL that she is being rude and out of line. I am 90% sure that she doesn't mean to be such an ass, she thinks that she's being helpful and encouraging. Just let her know that you would prefer not to discuss your weight with her and that you are doing just fine in your goals to be healthy.
loving_martinis
Aug. 14th, 2008 11:19 am (UTC)
Seriously, either you politely tell her to back off, she's being rude or FH needs to. I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate someone doing that to her, it doesn't even have to be weight related. "Should you really be spending money on that? Are you out of debt yet?", it's meddling and rude.
mydreamwedding
Aug. 14th, 2008 07:47 am (UTC)
Its a little rude to question a purchase that was already made. its not like you can change it now. As long as YOU love the dress thats all that matters.
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